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Help Kids Feel Good About Themselves

Posted , updated Mar 09, 2006.

Help Kids Feel Good About Themselves
Few things will be more important in deciding your children’s future than their sense of self-worth. Kids who feel good about themselves are:
  • less likely to be pressured into doing things they don’t want to do.
  • much better at solving problems and generally do better in school.
  • happier, enjoy learning new things, and get along with others.
  • affected positively in all aspects of their lives.

    Ways To Help Children Feel Good About Themselves:

  • Spend time with your child. Talk, listen, and show interest in his activities.
  • Don’t put your child down. Talk to her the way you like others to talk to you. Be patient and understanding.
  • Provide opportunities for success. Success is the best esteem builder there is.
  • Give praise when you observe the effort. Be specific. Make sure your child knows what it was that was well done. “You are staying right beside me in the store. What a big girl you are becoming!”
  • Support your child when he is struggling or frustrated. “I know you want your brother to play with you now. He is doing his homework. Could you build a tower while you wait?”
  • Teach your child to praise others and see the best in each situation. Be a good role model by having the best self-esteem you can.
  • Teach the difference between praise and bragging. “You must be proud .of yourself. You did great!"
  • Express your affection often through physical contact such as hugs, kisses, pats or an arm over the shoulder.
  • Respect feelings and abilities. Remind yourself not to carry her when she can get there on her own or not to speak for her when she can do this for herself.
  • Relax and accept your child as he is. Don’t try to make him somebody else. Recognize and nurture his special qualities.

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